Setting Boundaries without Guilt
But the reality is that boundaries are not about keeping people out - but more about keeping your peace in. They’re guidelines that protect you. Boundaries are also an act of self-respect. They show others how to treat you. Guilt only creeps in because we’ve been conditioned to prioritize the needs and feelings of others; over ourselves - & I can tell you from experience as a professional boundary bender - it leads to resentment and burnout.
So, as you are looking at the close of the 1st quarter of 2025 - I invite you to ask yourself: “Am I unapologetically enforcing my boundaries?”
When Life Feels out of Sync
I came into this year with a completely different perspective than what I have today. I thought this would be the year of transcendence, pushing beyond limitations, over-coming all obstacles, excelling, soaring into something new. Instead, I’ve realized that before I can transcend, I have to align. Align with myself, my goals, and the life I actually want—not just the one I’ve been maintaining out of habit.
And let me tell you, alignment is sneaky. It doesn’t always arrive as an aha moment wrapped in clarity. Sometimes, it’s a slow unraveling of what no longer fits. A job that no longer sparks anything. A routine that once felt comforting but now feels restrictive. Even foods I once enjoyed no longer agree with me. It’s as if my body, my mind, and my entire being are whispering, It’s time to shift.
From Selfless to Self-Honoring
To be self-honoring means recognizing your own worth and valuing your needs, boundaries, and desires just as much as you value those of others. It’s not about neglecting your responsibilities or being unkind—it’s about creating space to nurture your well-being.
When you honor yourself, you give yourself permission to recharge, grow, and thrive. And when you do, you’re better equipped to show up for the people you love in a healthy, sustainable way.
What’s on My Bookshelf for 2025
These are the kinds of books that make you pause, reflect, and maybe even take a deep breath when you need it most. They’re about those little mindset shifts that can lead to big breakthroughs and the moments that help us grow. I’m excited to dive into these titles this year, and I hope you discover a must-read too.