Shortly after the “toilet tab”, that same morning, I went downstairs and the dishwasher was still full (but hadn't been run), and the mugs from last night were still on the table. “ I need to run the dishwasher before work.” I told myself. PING! Tab #2 open.

Later, that afternoon with my head in the washer, I remembered and called out: “Honey, have you made your doctor's appointment yet?” The answer back? “Not yet, I forgot.”

I’ve reminded him three times. This is a tab I was hoping I could close today - Now it’s slid to the front of the line.

If you're reading this nodding and saying ‘Girl, me too” I don't have to tell you what this is. You already know. You've probably been doing it for years.

We’re taught to be careful, to weigh our options, to not make impulsive choices. And while thoughtfulness has its place, I’ve realized that sometimes the endless search for certainty is just fear in disguise.

Because here’s the truth:

• There is no perfect career move, only the next right step.

• There is no perfect relationship decision, only the choice that aligns with who you are today.

• There is no perfect way to navigate life’s transitions, only the willingness to trust that you’ll figure things out as you go.

This hit home for me, so I tested it out with something small but persistent: taking out the trash.

Normally, if I was the one dragging the garbage to the curb, I’d feel annoyed—Why am I the only one who does this? Why hasn’t anyone else taken care of it?

But this time, I stopped myself and shifted my perspective. Instead of frustration, I reframed it as:

I am of use to my household by doing this task.

And honestly? It made a difference. It didn’t make taking out the trash fun, but it stripped away the resentment. I wasn’t carrying extra frustration over what other people weren’t doing. I just did what I needed to do and moved on.

It’s a small shift, but it changes everything.